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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 05:35 AM
? regarding nicknames


There is confusion at my house regarding the use of true names and nicknames.
1. There is a grown man I know in Baja, has a good business and is respected in his town, that I only know his first and last given names. This is what I call him by and have never been told his nickname that I assume everyone else calls him by. Am I being rude by not using his nickname, too formal?

2. There is a man I really like who does some work for me and we often sit around at the end of the day having a beer and just chatting. I only know his nickname. Is it rude to only use it at all times? Is it pejorative, am I treating him like a child and not the equal he really is? In this case, I am called 'Santiago' by him so I'm guessing it's OK? Still, it seems rude not to know the guy's real name.

I worry about stuff like this as those that know me say I am not the most sensitive guy around.




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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 08:25 AM


I have a friend who's name is Santiago and they just call him Santi...



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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 08:36 AM


good question!! It depends on the nickname and as you mentioned...your relationship with the person. Some people are only known and called by their nicknames...take your lead from others...if you hear everyone calling him that...then it's Ok.

For example there is a ..for lack of a better phrase..unattractive man in town everyone knows as Feon (super ugly) but nobody actually calls him that!!! they call him by his name Manuel but because there are so many Manuels, in a conversation that refers to him, everyone uses Feon...so if the nickname is not very polite, one doesnt use it to his/her face...likewise a rotund woman is called Pez Sol...sunfish...but nobody call her that to her face.

But many people are known and called by their nicknames so it's OK...especially if it is a common one that is short for their names like Chepe.

But being a gringo, one should generally defer to the more respectful names unless the person is a real amigo. Also can depend on the situation and the position the person holds..for example when Pelon became the mayor it felt inappropriate to call him that...although most people still did...then one uses the position name like Delegado, or Licenciado, Doctora, Maestra etc. which is useful when you cant remember someones name. It's OK to call them by their title....or like Juan calls some fellows...mi estimado!

There are people I dont even know their real names after knowing them 20 years! And I especially like "compa" or comadre y compadre for those who are fortunate enough to carry that title!
Like many things Mexicano there are so many nuances and exceptions to the rules!

[Edited on 8-27-2015 by shari]




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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 08:50 AM


there is a guy named Pepito. he hates the name yet everyone uses it. i respect the guy having only known him a short while and use his given name.



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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 09:24 AM


Why not just ask your friends what they prefer to be called. it has always worked for Me !
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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 12:48 PM


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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 01:03 PM


Quote: Originally posted by fdt  
I don't mind Flowers but only from you

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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 01:04 PM



Gawd...I used to cringe when I saw "Flowers" for you, Ferna.
Good to see you, mi amigo.




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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 01:30 PM


Santiago is the only one to call me Flowers, hahaha



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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 03:19 PM


Shari, is the man thin, then delgado is cool, if not Delegado would be correct.
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[*] posted on 8-27-2015 at 03:55 PM


ooops, it was a typo...our Delegado isnt delgado! jejeje



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