Originally posted by oxxo
Quote: | Originally posted by Iflyfish
A healthy resolution of this developmental issue is the conclusion that " I am good and bad and that is good" (Get along with others who are also good
and bad). Less positive resolutions of this developmental issue generate destructive conclusions such as "I am good and others are bad" (Do away with
others) or "I am bad and others are good" (Depression and Masochism), "I am bad and others are bad" (Nihilism, Sadism and Sociopathy, Do away with
them and me). |
This concept is the subject of a book, "I'm Okay, You're Okay" written by an acquaintance of mine, an academic. Honest exploration and examination of
any subject, religion for example, can lead to mutual understanding, if not agreement.
the Brazilian theologist Leonardo Boff wrote:
In a round table discussion about religion and freedom in which Dalai Lama
and myself were participating at recess, I maliciously and also with interest, asked him: “Your holiness, what is the best religion?”
I thought he would say: “The Tibetan Buddhism” or “The oriental religions, much older than Christianity.”
The Dalai Lama paused, smiled and looked me in the eyes …. which surprised me because I knew of the malice contained in my question.
He answered: “The best religion is the one that gets you closest to God. It is the one that makes you a better person.”
To get out of my embarrassment with such a wise answer, I asked: “What is it that makes me better?”
He responded:
“Whatever makes you
more compassionate,
more sensible,
more detached,
more loving,
more humanitarian,
more responsible,
more ethical.”
“The religion that will do that for you is the best religion”
I was silent for a moment, marveling and even today thinking of his wise and irrefutable response:
“I am not interested, my friend, about your religion or if you are religious or not.
“What really is important to me is your behavior in front of your peers, family, work, community, and in front of the world.
“Remember, the universe is the echo of our actions and our thoughts.”
“The law of action and reaction is not exclusively for physics. It is also of human relations. If I act with goodness, I will receive goodness. If I
act with evil, I will get evil.”
“What our grandparents told us is the pure truth. You will always have what you desire for others. Being happy is not a matter of destiny. It is a
matter of options.”
Finally he said:
“Take care of your Thoughts because they become Words.
Take care of your Words because they will become Actions.
Take care of your Actions because they will become Habits.
Take care of your Habits because they will form your Character.
Take care of your Character because it will form your Destiny,
and your Destiny will be your Life
… and …
“There is no religion higher than the Truth.”
This exchange has given me, personally, great comfort. Unfortunately, what I see around me is too many religions, specifically Christian and Muslim,
do not make many of their adherents better people. Is that the fault of the specific religion or specific people? My conclusion and answer is that
it is the fault of both. So I have taken his High, Holy Llamaness's advice. I, for one, am searching for "the Truth." I am convinced I have found
it. "The Truth" hasn't made me a perfect person, but I believe that it has made me an evolving better person. |