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American men (of a certain age) w/ Mexican women (much younger)

Gypsy Jan - 6-15-2005 at 09:42 PM

OK, I can figure out the surface attraction.

What else is it?

[Edited on 6-16-2005 by Gypsy Jan]

Bruce R Leech - 6-16-2005 at 06:49 AM

probably about the same as American women (of a certain age) w/ Mexican men (much younger) I would guess they fall in love and don't worry to much about the age thing.:light:

TMW - 6-16-2005 at 06:52 AM

It's a man thing. Women will never understand. Truthfully there probably as many reason as there are people, every situation is different. In many, if not most cases, it is a macho ego thing, but not all. For some it could be the right place at the right time for the right reasons. Are you still confused? Me too.

Oso - 6-16-2005 at 06:56 AM

http://www.fredoneverything.net/FOE_Frame_Column.htm

Go to left of page, scroll down and click on #271 "Marriage in Mexico, Etc."

BTW, my Mexican wife is not younger than me, she only looks that way.:biggrin:

[Edited on 6-16-2005 by Oso]

BajaNomad - 6-16-2005 at 07:01 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by Oso
http://www.fredoneverything.net/FOE_Frame_Column.htm

Go to left of page, scroll down and click on #271 "Marriage in Mexico, Etc."

BTW, my Mexican wife is not younger than me, she only looks that way.:biggrin:

[Edited on 6-16-2005 by Oso]


Assume you mean this link:

http://www.fredoneverything.net/MexicanasII.shtml

:)

Oso - 6-16-2005 at 07:04 AM

Yep, shorter route. Thanks.

Now that's funny

Keri - 6-16-2005 at 08:44 AM

a little crude but funny .A nice take and I think he's given some sound reasons all around . Happy Hunting guys and gals, k :yes::rolleyes:

I confess!

Bajame - 6-16-2005 at 10:28 AM

In my latter twenties I dated a young man ten years younger than me from Mexico City area. He was so classy! His family wasn't happy that we were thinking about getting married and him taking on the responsibilty 3 boys. He was sad that his family didn't approve and I knew that I would have to let him go as family was so important him. My kids still talk about him today 30 years later and I have never met anyone like him since. :rolleyes: If he only knew what an impression he left with all who met him! It was truly a gift that he came into my life, a light, a promise of better things, encouragement to strive for all that you dream of. He's always in my heart.

pokey - 6-16-2005 at 10:52 AM

Quote:
BTW, my Mexican wife is not younger than me, she only looks that way.
. Same here. I don't think I could marry someone who was significantly younger than me.

I did, however, share a few bottles of wine, in a secluded eucalyptus grove, with a very attractive young Cuban lady the other day. Kinda felt like I was back in high school. :spingrin:

Great thread

Mike Humfreville - 6-16-2005 at 11:16 AM

And Fred made many good points in Oso's link.

bajalou - 6-16-2005 at 11:23 AM

"Same here. I don't think I could marry someone who was significantly younger than me."

If you feel they are the "right" one, why not?? I'm rather satisfied with my choice. (Not Mexican but younger)

:biggrin:

pokey - 6-16-2005 at 11:33 AM

I agree with you bajalou. But a girl 20 years younger than me would be in her teens. Perhaps in a few more years I'll think differently :yes:

Can't Remember Who Said This Guys, But...

bahiamia - 6-16-2005 at 11:38 AM

"You're only as old as the woman you feel."

Me No - 6-16-2005 at 01:57 PM

Bahiamia, that must be why I feel 23!!!!!:P:P:P

bajalou - 6-16-2005 at 02:49 PM

When I was about 40, I told my then wife, that these 20 year olds are sure nice to look at, but I sure wouldn't want one for my own.



:rolleyes:

bajaden - 6-16-2005 at 05:39 PM

When I was 52 I had a friend fix me up with a 27 yr old. I have to admit, she was a lot of fun and exciting to be with. The fact that I had a daughter that was 1 older made me somewhat uncomfortable. One day she mentioned to me that her biological clock was running.So I decided it was time I started running.

bajalera - 6-16-2005 at 05:40 PM

Dang! You don't have to be a guy to understand that. If I had time for a man in my life, I'd certainly prefer a younger one.

Seventy, say, or seventy-five.

Lera

JESSE - 6-16-2005 at 07:39 PM

White chicks are hot!:yes:

Frank - 6-16-2005 at 07:49 PM

Wow Baja is paradise;)

Bruce R Leech - 6-16-2005 at 07:53 PM

We have a few Mexican men married to younger American women here in Mulege. also more older women marred to younger men. I don't know why you people have a problem with age or race in a marriage.

Bruce, I take exception

Gypsy Jan - 6-16-2005 at 08:21 PM

to your characterizing this thread as ageist and racist.

I started this thread as an inquiry on certain social patterns I have noticed in my little corner of the latin world.

If you have a problem with honest commentary and inquiries and the responses to them, I can't help that.

elgatoloco - 6-16-2005 at 09:45 PM

I'm with Jan. Bruce, relax. You should be happy the question was not posted ANONYMOUSLY. :P

TMW - 6-17-2005 at 07:26 AM

I think this has been a great topic with very interesting replies. I have been surprised more by the women marrying or being with younger men than the other way around. I guess I just never thought of it that way much.

Bruce R Leech - 6-17-2005 at 08:39 AM

Quote:
Originally posted by Gypsy Jan
to your characterizing this thread as ageist and racist.

I started this thread as an inquiry on certain social patterns I have noticed in my little corner of the latin world.

If you have a problem with honest commentary and inquiries and the responses to them, I can't help that.


please don't take exception I was not referring to your original post so I will here. you did say American men (of a certain age) w/ Mexican women (much younger). I just don't think this is any deferent here than in any other part of the world. do you?

I guess I just don't know what answer your looking for when you ask.{ OK, I can figure out the surface attraction.What else is it?} when people meet and form a relationship it is usually for many reasons. but I think when you Live in Mexico and most of your Friends are Mexican your chances are vary good that if you do form a relationship that It will be with a Mexican.
:?:

[Edited on 6-18-2005 by Bruce R Leech]

Fred on Everything

rogerj1 - 6-17-2005 at 10:10 AM

Thanks for the link. This looks like an interesting website. Anymore sites would be appreciated.

Eli - 6-17-2005 at 10:22 AM

O.k., o.k., I must confess to a love affair many, many years ago, with an Mayan Indian guy from San Juan Chamula out of Chiapas, 17 years my junior, but in many ways much older than me.

We spent one summer togeather picking fruit up in Oregon and Washington. He taught me some of his mayan dialect, legends from his village, for sure I count him as one of my great lifes lessons, truly he among my teachers. I taught him some english.

When we were camped alone in the woods, our world was perfect- Ah, but when we were out in the "real world", well it didn't work at all. So, the season ended, and I sent him packing and went on with my life, never saw him again, but never forgot what he taught.

Sara, thanks, you caught hold of the spirit

Gypsy Jan - 6-17-2005 at 08:32 PM

of my thread.

I am fascinated by and wonder about human relationships and how they work.

I started this thread because I have observed a few things recently in my own corner of the world and wanted to post the subject on this board to learn from other experiences.

Full disclosure: first marriage to someone my own age, then divorce; after that, relationships with younger (ten years plus) and older men (ten years plus); second marriage to older man seventeen years plus (eighteen years married now).

How/why do relationships work is my eternal question.

The older American men/younger Mexican woman was just a small nibble on the subject.

es mas fresca la tarde que la manana

BajaVida - 6-19-2005 at 03:49 PM

my Mexican mother (older) says to my Mexican father (younger);D

bajalera - 6-19-2005 at 04:10 PM

Bruce, you seem to think that Jan was looking for some particular answer. It sounded to me like she was just curious about other people's views, no matter what they happen to be.

Lera

Eli - 6-19-2005 at 07:09 PM

Boy, oh boy, I do agree with you, there Jan. human relationships are real interesting, I do a lot of watching and thinking about this too. Still, must admit, kind of like shaking a wasp nest, don't you think? Well, I think my reply was maybe a tad bit more personal than should have been, but there you have it, and by golly, here is even more on the subject.

My Dad was gee, I donno, how many years older than Dona Lupe, something like to 13, we all know how in Love they were (are).

My daughter is 12 years younger than her husband who is 100% Los Barrilito, she was born state side, but really in a cultural way, she is much more comfortable in the Mexican community. Ah, they are sooooooo in Love and happy, i hope and pray they get many, many years togeather.

I watch my art teachers, they are from here in Oax., he is 10 years older than her, again, it is magnificent to see the love they share.

Just yesterday, I was sitting with a poet from VeraCruz and his lady,a little Oaxacana, I would guess he would be at least 20 years her senior, again, the adoration penetrated the room. He is in joy, she idolizes him, he is her poet, she is his muse. Ah sweet love..........

Me, well, now that I have come out a bit, I must admit, after that summer with the Mayan guy, I have spent the better part of my life alone now. Gosh, now that I think of it, it's been since "mid "80's" por hay. Expect about now it is highly unlikly that is ever going to change. I make a real good friend, and that's about it. In fin, being alone truly has some wonderful advantages, there is a freedom that I am not ever going to relinquish all that easy. Must say, that wasn't how I planned it, but there it is. I do note that generally women adapt better to aloneness than most men. Again, there are no for sure it is like this or that, there.

In fin, I guess, there really are no for sure's why or what fores when it comes to love. So, I'll just try to love myself, good enough.

[Edited on 6-20-2005 by Eli]

Sally

jrbaja - 6-19-2005 at 09:23 PM

You are loved by many!!

Sara

Baja Bernie - 6-20-2005 at 08:29 AM

This is exactly why you should write a book. You do make a most wonderful friend.

Gyspy Jan--sorry for getting off the topic but I need to push the Lady every chance I get. Who knows--she just might write it one of these years.

Eli - 6-20-2005 at 06:09 PM

Thanks J.R. for the kind words.

Bernie, Bernie, Bernie, someday, someday, but certainly not today.

Bajame - 6-20-2005 at 07:04 PM

I'am single now too, and must admit that I love the freedom that goes with it! :yes: Was married a total of 37 years in two marriages and like bugs bunny said: That's all folks! :P Married at 16 so this freedom is a new thing to me. Friendships are special and there no need to make more of them now. :bounce:

Sara

Baja Bernie - 6-20-2005 at 07:17 PM

Sadly, so sadly I crawl away into the shadows. I await the day or the year that you place pen and ink to paper and cause the world to cry and to, finally, understand what this world and this life is about.

Sharing and love are far, far, to simple. Feeling and caring for people is closer to the target but they still misses the mark.

Perhaps you will answer this elusive question and release us all from our puny pursuits.

I have spoken to the muse and she has said that she will only appear when you bid her to enter fully into your life.

No more will I say on this!

Eli - 6-21-2005 at 11:04 AM

Ay que Mi Don Bernie,

Really and truly, I am just another Bozo on the Bus. I have no answers, no wisdom to share, I am just serching for my own identy you know. Still, if you must know, this morning, I did again start writing the story. Maybe if I finish, I will find out who I am.

Now, does this have anything to do with American Men with Mexican Women, I think not, boy did we get off track or what.........Geezzzzzzzzz

I like older women.

Bruce R Leech - 6-21-2005 at 11:23 AM

Cincodemayo - 6-21-2005 at 01:45 PM

There's hot women of any race.;)

BS, Bruce

neilmac - 6-21-2005 at 02:04 PM

"I like older women."


You just like her necklace!

Neil

Bruce R Leech - 6-23-2005 at 09:38 AM

no I actually like her because her father is the King and the interest is purely political:saint:




sorry I edited to much








[Edited on 6-23-2005 by Bruce R Leech]

neilmac - 6-23-2005 at 01:36 PM

Quote:
Originally posted by Bruce R Leech
no actually her father is the King and the interest is purely political:saint:


Could be strange bedfellows, indeed.

Neil