Katiejay99 - 9-22-2008 at 05:53 AM
My fellow “Nomads” – we are a community of sorts, and as a typical community, we find a variety of personalities. Every situation and person who comes
into our “space” is a great opportunity for us to learn more about ourselves, our perceptions and our own character.
Perhaps, instead of attacking others, it would be a better option to ask ourselves why this or that person (or circumstance) has created the feelings
inside of us which cause a negative reaction. Immense negative reactions is simply a cry from the Soul to be recognized, cherished and loved. We can
begin doing this by simply forgiving others (and ourselves) and then changing our mental mood.
I tend to find the contrary ones on this board to be funny in a sense. Well, maybe funny isn’t the right word – amusing is probably better. Only
because I realize that their inner-child is acting out and requiring attention. We all fall into that in some way during our life times. Everything is
in the mind, change your mind or mood, and you change a situation – preferably for the better.
As in any community, others come and they go – such is life in general. We come together to learn from one another (whether in hyperspace or in
person) and once we have learned and evolved, we go forth to find more learning experiences. Just as any other community, some will “grab” us and some
won’t. Those who don’t are not bad, it is just that we have already learned what they have to teach or we are not ready to learn that life lesson yet.
We all move on, we all go forward. There is nothing wrong nor negative about that, it is just how life evolves.
So, I say to all, even though I am a “Newbie” – Hello and Good Day. May you find peace and comfort along your path in life, one day at a time, one
second at a time. The beauty of Nature is serene, I hope you can find the love you seek in Her bounty of life.
The Gull - 9-22-2008 at 06:11 AM
Well, I feel much better now.
oldlady - 9-22-2008 at 06:11 AM
David K - 9-22-2008 at 07:27 AM
Good point, also see Osprey's post this morning...
BajaGringo - 9-22-2008 at 08:34 AM
I say it's time for another group hug!
vgabndo - 9-22-2008 at 08:56 AM
Katie:
Thanks for your thoughtful comments, and welcome to the board. I am in agreement with virtually everything you have to say. I would invite you to
consider using "I" statements as a means to making your truths more acceptable to those who may still require a bit more evolution.
I have come to believe that "all 'men' were created equal" is nonsense; first, I don't believe they were "created", and second, we humans are clearly
not all evolved to the same level of consciousness. This, I judge, is demonstrated by those who immediately belittled your comments.
I suspect that part of the problem with incivility on this board has to do with age demographics. My experience with reading the comments on "U-tube"
type sites where younger folks congregate is that they are involved in an orgy of flaming each other. The reaction of the Medicare set, who grew up
in a more polite world, is perhaps understandable.
And then, there are those on Geritol who just never matured to their chronological age.
It is a beautiful day. Fall is in the air. The woodshed is nearly full. There are plums to dry, berries to be picked, and the apples are ready to be
"sauced". Life is too good to waste on negativity. Group hugs are GOOD.
fishbuck - 9-22-2008 at 09:25 AM
Hi Katie and welcome to the board.
Your post was very thoughtful.
Unfortunately you have just opened the board to a debate we have had several times already. And it usually turns negative and a bit ugly. I hope that
is not the case this time.
This board, like Baja is defferent things to different people. So it is a little unrealistic to believe we all have the same attitude toward board
behavior. Although the basics of common courtesy should prevail it is not always the case.
There is a wide demograffic and it may be necessary to be tolarant of differring points of view without being offended to survive here.
The beauty of nature is serene? Perhap you haven't heard about hurricane Ike.
The reality of life is that not everything is beautiful. But a properly conditioned person, both mentally and physically, is more than a match for
most situations that life will bring.
Therein is the beauty of human existence.
Have a great day and do your best to be prepared for what life may bring you. Both the good and the bad.
Iflyfish - 9-22-2008 at 09:43 AM
John Gottman, PhD, Seattle, did a 24 year study of over two thousand couples predicting marital satisfaction and divorce. His findings were very
interesting. How we talk with each other is the primary predictor of both marital satisfaction and divorce. If there is criticism, defensiveness,
contempt or stonewalling, there is trouble. He recognized that these communication mechanisms; criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling are
all simply ways of expressing differences. Differences, only differences. The problem with criticism, defensiveness and stonewalling is that the
relationship gets trashed as the discussion goes on. He found contempt to be predictive of physical illness on the part of the recipient and that
contempt is actually toxic.
I think of these findings are very important as we think about how we communicate our differences to others.
Iflyfish
The Gull - 9-22-2008 at 11:06 AM
That is a long time to study something which is obvious. Do you think Dr. Gottman was a little slow on the uptake?
Terry28 - 9-22-2008 at 03:52 PM
I think he was going through a divorce at the time!!
fishbuck - 9-22-2008 at 03:53 PM
I hope it doen't take him another 24 years to figure out the right way.
ELINVESTIG8R - 9-22-2008 at 03:59 PM
