Originally posted by Islandbuilder
It's an interesting quirk of human nature that we continue to seek "perfect" community, in the face of thousands of years of human history showing
that we just can't live together in anything resembling perfect peace.
I no longer expect to find a community in which there is no friction or disagreement. If I ever DID find one, I would just mess it up by moving into
it!
All we can hope for is that we express our disagreements in respectful ways, and usually, that respect is born of shared life experience. And that, my
friends, is more likely to happen in the fishbowl existence of a small village than it is in the anonymity of urban life.
It is my experience that the folks who have dominant personalites struggle with others wired the same way. Small towns, especially those which are
remote and essentially a "closed system" are especially difficult for some, because there is no safe place to vent and we deal with the folks we may
be in conflict with on a daily basis. That's small towns everywhere, not just in Baja.
It takes some specific personal wiring to make it work, and for most of us, the only way to find out if we can do it, is to jump in and try. After
living on a small island for almost 25 years, I am small town to the core, and I'm pretty sure I can be happy in a place like BA. But, if you're
coming from a large town, where your connections with others are based more on shared interests and activities, or on world views and politics, you
should rent in a small place for a while to see if it's right for you. |