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[*] posted on 10-16-2008 at 09:12 PM


Whenever possible in the States, I usually give the street person a couple of burgers, fries and a coke........no money



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[*] posted on 10-16-2008 at 09:24 PM


You give what you can ... when you can. I do not think too much about it. If some one on the streets in any locale asks me for spare change ...if i have it i give it. If I drive south I take something to offer to those in need. There have always been beggars and not giving will not make them go away. What they do with the clothes or the money is their business. Yes, and even food can be bartered.
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[*] posted on 10-16-2008 at 10:03 PM


One gives as one sees fit. I also give money and food to those in the U.S.A. off and on. I also tell them where they can get a chance to clean-up, eat, and yes it involves the reading of the Lord's word. I have had some tell me they would go without before praying and I said ok your choice, but if I gave them something I did not resent it when they told me this.
In Imperial County a number of our churches, clubs, even a motorcycle club I mess around with on short rides in Calexico raises money for the children helped by the church and DIF in Mexicali with clothes, food, and yes gifts for X-Mas. I have given and bought these little kids food in Mexico and have yet to have one not eat it all real fast and always get a smile, so I guess I was paid in the only way they could. I also understand those that are mad at adults using these kids to get money, so be upset with the one controlling the game not the kids. "No Hurry, No Worry, Just Fun" bajafun777




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[*] posted on 10-16-2008 at 10:46 PM


It can be tough sometimes to see beggars in Mexico and elsewhere...

I learned my lesson early on in my Mexico travels when I gave a little kid 2 pesos and later saw him in the video arcade the same day.


Now my rules are...

If missing a limb, injured, or elderly.. I will give some money depending on my mood and my current wealth. Usually 2 to 5 pesos and sometimes more. Sometimes it's hard.. at the border I give none to anyone since I'd be broke just giving to people in wheelchairs, etc..

Everyone else.. sorry..

If you play me a song, I will give a few pesos. I once had a guy offer to sing me a song so he could buy a guitar to replace his that was stolen. I gave him 50 pesos. Several years later.. I saw the same guy in the same town.. this time with a guitar.. and selling CD's of his music. I bought one from him and when I told him about meeting him years earlier.. he remembered me and gave me some other free crafts, textiles, etc and thanked me for helping him in the past....

I always take extra bread, tortillas, and fruit from my meals at restaurants and give them to the beggars sitting in front of the churches.. Elderly, and women with children come first..
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[*] posted on 10-17-2008 at 07:01 AM


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That is the reason for using Suitcases to take clothes to Mexico.

Shortly after we got started with "Warm Jackets for Cold Kids" the custom s people at the Border at TJ and Otay started stopping and taking clothes in boxes and Bags.

I checked with officials and found that they would not bother if clothes where in Suitcases and the number was reasonable.{This last trip I had 12 Bags covered up with a sleeping bag} No Trouble anywhere, Military did not ever look in the back of the Truck. Just wanted to talk with me in Spanish/English. Did not even have to get Sprayed at GN.
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[*] posted on 10-17-2008 at 07:14 AM


This is a good tip for border crossing with gifts(not even at christmas, take your presents unwrapped)...NEVER tell them anything is a gift or donation...it's all your stuff...the suitcase tip works perfectly AND you get to give away the suitcase too!



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[*] posted on 10-17-2008 at 05:51 PM


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What you are saying is true, but only for a few, I work with a Church in Ensernada doing missionary work and we go into the villages, in and around PUNTA BANDA and other places close by, and these Indians work in the fields very hard for a few pesos daily, you don't see the places they live from the road side, they are in, only a couple of miles, and never leave the Village, the men come and impreagnate them and leave, the Children that are 4 or 5 become the baby sitters, while the mothers go to work in the fields, most won't wear shoes because they don't feel comfortable with them on, now these are the people to feel sorry for, their house is a pallet with card board attached, and dirt floors, believe me they have absolutely nothing, so don't confuse yourself with all of them, all are basically in tijuana, Rosarito etc.
By the way these people speak absolutely NO SPANISH, they have there own language, and each village is different from one another, they don't even know how old they are, they have no birth certificates and have not, and most will never see school, so some insight of the real Indians.


A grim picture, but I don't believe entirely accurate. Agua Viva Children's Home provides food and care to up to 150 children daily. Their mission is necessitated by the absence of parents, who do spend long days in the fields, making between $12 and $13/day each.

Shoes are a major problem. Regular shoes won't last but a few days in the muck surrounding the Oaxacan homes in the hills between here and Maneadero. If new shoes are donated, there's a good chance Dad will sell them for pulque money. The answer is JELLIES: easily cleaned and not very marketable. If anyone on this board can score jellies for the kids, I'll get them to Agua Viva.




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[*] posted on 10-18-2008 at 02:14 PM


"It is not possible to help another without helping yourself also."

Don't know the source of that quote, but I do know that whenever I give to a beggar, I FEEL better.




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[*] posted on 10-18-2008 at 03:00 PM


I give $40.00 per month to Children International which helps with the education and health for a 11 year old girl close to San Pedro Sula Honduras and have been supporting her this way since she was 5.

A few years ago I had work in San Pedro Sula and contacted Children Inter. and told them I was going to be there and wanted to meet her. They set up the meeting and met with her and her mother and a representative from CI. It was great to meet with her and had the opportunity to see where my money was going.

I did my research prior to giving any money to this organization and felt confident that it would go to the child instead of a large percentage going to scammers.

If you have extra money to give and want to see where it goes please check out Auga Viva just south of Ensenada. Arlene and Jon who run this facility help with the local poor individuals who work in the fields and cannot provide child care for their children. When I went there and saw what they do I was very impressed with their support for these people. They told me the mother and father would go to work in the fields and leave the oldest child to care for the others and sometimes the oldest child is only 5 years old!

Auga Viva gives 2 meals a day to about 100 people as well as provide a safe loving atmosphere for those kids who would be left at home alone with nothing or very little to eat. They also are provided with a teacher which is paid by the Mexican Govt. Most of these kids are from Oaxaca.

I don't feel bad when I tell the beggers no because I give my support and money to people that I know where the money goes.

For those of you who want to give please support out golf tournament for Agua Viva which is now an annual event. The next tourney will be in June of next year at the Baja Country Club. If you cannot give money please give your time and energy to this fund raiser.
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[*] posted on 10-18-2008 at 03:06 PM


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[*] posted on 10-18-2008 at 05:13 PM


I am from a rural area and not used to the city street beggars. What is the story with the stop-light beggars in La Paz? Some seem to be "selling" lollipops and others are collecting for the children of "something"?

This issue is not new...I remember visiting Ensenada as a young girl with my family about 30 years ago and there was a boy about 9 years old, who followed up up to our car, asking "Money for a taco? Money for a taco?" and he was literally opening up our car door as my dad was backing out of the parking space.

Those who know, please shed some light about the streetlight people. thanks-
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[*] posted on 10-18-2008 at 06:12 PM


I give all I feel right with, either side of the border. Sadly my Internet commenters choose to sent most of my coerced tax dollars to major corporate executives who have gamed the system and ripped off the taxpayer. In contrast, I feel as though I have taken my power back when I CHOOSE to support an Estados Unidos beggar or a Baja poor Solicitor with either an offer of food or cash. I do not feel as if the offering is "misused". That idea is different across cultures. I choose where to offer or to give my money.

One thing is certain, I will never spend MY MONEY on anything to make some internet commenter feel better about their bias. I will be my own person ,and whatever some of you think of me I could care less. I moderated my opinion a great bit here.
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[*] posted on 10-21-2008 at 10:19 AM


Spending 6 months in La Paz, we have been associated with several groups that honestly provide for poorer folks. The Fundación Ayuda Niños La Paz which is associated with the Club Cruceros has a subasta this November 30. Thousands of dollars are raised each year at the subasta which go to breakfast and lunch programs in several colonias. They also provide educational scholarships for qualified kids in these poor colonias so that they can attend higher education. The subasta always accepts donations of clothing, appliances, etc. A contact is Mary Shroyer at Marina de la Paz. We have been out to the colonias helping at Christmas and other times and it is a very effective program. Stop by and volunteer and you will become acquainted with other groups (like the Jaycees) who contribute so much too.
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[*] posted on 10-21-2008 at 10:42 AM


We can all share our thoughts and opinions here without being judgmental - No need to feel defensive. This is something you should feel motivated to do, not coerced into. Like many things in life, there is no perfect answer on this one...



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[*] posted on 10-21-2008 at 10:44 AM
To Each Their Own !


This question comes up frequently and the bottom line is that everyone will continue to do whatever they have been. No minds are changed.

For my part, I have always made it a point to cross the border with a surplus of Dollar Bills to hand out for Chiklets or whatever. A pleasant demeanor helps, too. The really nice guy at the gas station got three dollars Sunday for a so-so windshield wash. The problem with the regulars is that, once you overpay, you feel obligated to from then on. Although I generally give something to everyone, the guys who get the most from me are those missing limbs. I figure whatever else they may or may not have going on, being a cripple in Mexico has to be pretty bad.

When all is said and done, the 20-30 dollars or so I hand out to vendors and beggars during a monthly commute, accounts for a pittance of money spent.

One habit that I have revised is that I usually keep about Ten Dollars in ones folded over and wedged into the dash adjacent to an air vent. Stopping at one Army checkpoint, the soldier gave me a dark look and questioned WHY the money was there. Thought it was a Bribe attempt, I guess. I still do it, but I pull it out when we come to the checkpoints.
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[*] posted on 10-21-2008 at 11:03 AM


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Those who know, please shed some light about the streetlight people. thanks-


Mexicali has a ton of these. Most are just hard working vendors, others are beggars in need, and I suspect some just beg professionally.

In general, i don't accept fliers/buy/talk to any of these people because I believe it creates unnecessary hazard in/on the roadway. I am sure the person working hard to feed themselves may have another opinion about its necessity.

Often they will hang candy on your side mirror and come back to collect the candy (or money if you take it) before the light turns green.

One guy in Mexicali I call the Ninja... He often wears a headband as he stands in the middle of traffic while he tosses fliers into open windows of cars moving down the street... its actually pretty amazing to watch and I'm surprised the guy still has two arms left.

I have no problem with beggars and helping them out. I do so often. But like someone else said.. its really a personal thing and you need to judge each person/situation separately.
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[*] posted on 10-22-2008 at 01:24 AM


WOW! I had no idea Mexico was so poor.Could someone please help me and direct me to the prostitutes that are in such dire staights they need money?Maybe I could develop a charity organization for them
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[*] posted on 10-22-2008 at 05:18 AM


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WOW! I had no idea Mexico was so poor.Could someone please help me and direct me to the prostitutes that are in such dire staights they need money?Maybe I could develop a charity organization for them


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[*] posted on 10-22-2008 at 06:24 AM
Begging in Baja


Prostitution begat oldest profession, which begat oldest begging, which begat......and so it goes...:rolleyes:

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[*] posted on 10-22-2008 at 06:34 AM


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I give a buck a limb when crossing the border.


exactly! we just crossed monday and the ONLY person who gets my spare change is the person in a wheelchair and obviously unable to get a real job. you can tell the scammers, usually. this time it was two guys each missing a leg on crutches trying to sell chicklets. at least these guys were trying to earn a living, not just begging.

oh yeah, the guy(s) who are sweeping up the border line with the sign that says our tip is his only pay. that guy is at least trying!!!!:saint:




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