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danaeb
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| Quote: | Originally posted by Alan
| Quote: | Originally posted by danaeb
I have no regrets. I have two homes now, San Diego and La Paz, When I was young I spent my crazy years in TJ, Rosarito and Ensenada. Now I'm
retired and I'm still hooked. |
If those crazy years were in the late sixties or early 70's we may have met
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I lied to my parents and snuck down to TJ with friends on my 17th birthday. I confessed to my mother on my 40th birthday.
Early 70's (when I was legal): Saturday night dances at the Rosarito Beach Hotel and bloody marys at the great solarium bar the next morning.
Hussongs: Where everyone was your best friend after a couple of hours, until someone ended up in the cage in the "police station" at the back of the
bar. The smell of sawdust on the floor.
Experience enables you to recognize a mistake every time you repeat it.
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Ateo
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Hey vgabndo: Thanks for sharing that. I think many people, alive and dead have been in a similar circumstance. Probably billions. Using other
humans for our own gratification, in whatever way, is a common human trait. The fact that you feel bad about it shows you have morals. Much worse
goes on every day, in every corner of the world.
Still, I'm sure it can still hang on your heart. Ok, not your hurt, your brain. We all have made mistakes. I think you've done your penance.
Your brother in Thor,
Jon
[Edited on 5-23-2014 by Ateo]
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Ateo
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I regret getting punched (not slapped) in the face by an ex-girlfriend in front of an entire group of people at a house party, that I was hosting. I
immediately yelled, "The party's over, get the hell out of here -- ASAP!!!"
A few stayed to make sure things didn't escalate. That is when the utter shame, dejection, and embarrassment set in.
Ok, the confessional is open.
[Edited on 5-23-2014 by Ateo]
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bajalearner
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| Quote: | Originally posted by Gypsy Jan
Mostly, it's, "I wish I had been paying attention/been smart enough to realize the opportunity at the time."
Every sunrise is a new opportunity to expand on what is here and to accomplish mo' bettah.
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"To have become a deeper man is the privilege of those who have suffered." Oscar Wilde
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rts551
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I regret not getting SD residency when I lived in CA.
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Gypsy Jan
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Holy Crappen Snickensnacks, You Guys!
I know many numbers of women who would crawl on hot lava rocks and broken glass just to hear from their loved one this kind of open dialogue.
How come you can write and post your innermost feelings on an open forum?
I sure as hell hope you are furnishing copies to the ones who love you.
“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow mindedness.”
—Mark Twain
\"La vida es dura, el corazon es puro, y cantamos hasta la madrugada.” (Life is hard, the heart is pure and we sing until dawn.)
—Kirsty MacColl, Mambo de la Luna
\"Alea iacta est.\"
—Julius Caesar
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bajalearner
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| Quote: | Originally posted by Gypsy Jan
I know many numbers of women who would crawl on hot lava rocks and broken glass just to hear from their loved one this kind of open dialogue.
How come you can write and post your innermost feelings on an open forum?
I sure as hell hope you are furnishing copies to the ones who love you. |
Maybe because it is accepted and listened to??? But if many ex's will crawl on hot lava rocks, then it is worthwhile.
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Skipjack Joe
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Reliving your life has been the subject of several really fine movies. Two that I can think of are: Peggy Sue got Married and Groundhog Day. Oh, and
now that I think of it, there was that Capra movie with Jimmy Stewart made in the 40's.
In all cases the conclusion was that you never appreciate how good you had it. Perhaps that's because of what film producer, Mayer, once said - I want
everyone leaving the theater with a smile.
Of the three, Groundhog Day is the most interesting, probably because it treats a serious subject as a comedy. One of the things that come out of it
is how unsatisfying it is to relive one's life and to try to improve upon it. One of the surprising conclusions contradicts our accepted belief. The
conclusion is that what makes life so pleasurable is that it's temporary and happens only once. This makes everything always new and everything is
valuable.
Here is the trailer for Peggy Sue Got Married.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Aj9hDe8VhpU
On the more comical side - having known nomads for several years it's fun to postulate what their regrets may have been. Gypsy Jan, for example, could
have used a few more dogs in her life.
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Ateo
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| Quote: | Originally posted by Gypsy Jan
I know many numbers of women who would crawl on hot lava rocks and broken glass just to hear from their loved one this kind of open dialogue.
How come you can write and post your innermost feelings on an open forum?
I sure as hell hope you are furnishing copies to the ones who love you. |
It could all be lies...................or it could be the truth! Ha ha.
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Ateo
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| Quote: | Originally posted by Skipjack Joe
Reliving your life has been the subject of several really fine movies.
Of the three, Groundhog Day is the most interesting, probably because it treats a serious subject as a comedy. One of the things that come out of it
is how unsatisfying it is to relive one's life and to try to improve upon it. One of the surprising conclusions contradicts our accepted belief. The
conclusion is that what makes life so pleasurable is that it's temporary and happens only once. This makes everything always new and everything is
valuable.
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Yeah, a good movie, and yep it's a surprising conclusion that contradicts our normal beliefs. I mean, gosh, we all want to stay alive for as long as
we can. We're here for a very short time. But to live forever? Maybe some of us could handle it, but I know someday I'd like to turn the light off
and get some rest.
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Gypsy Jan
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In Reply to All of You
Who have speculated about my domestic arrangements.
I have never paid money to acquire a dog or a man.
They have found their way to me on their own and, if I am interpreting their body language and attitudes correctly, they are grateful and happy.
“Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow mindedness.”
—Mark Twain
\"La vida es dura, el corazon es puro, y cantamos hasta la madrugada.” (Life is hard, the heart is pure and we sing until dawn.)
—Kirsty MacColl, Mambo de la Luna
\"Alea iacta est.\"
—Julius Caesar
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J.P.
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I was luck to find a program 30 years ago that taught me that the mistakes of the past should only be used as a measuring device to gauge the
successes of today. my past is the sum and total of who I am today and I am reasonably happy with that.
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vgabndo
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| Quote: | Originally posted by Gypsy Jan
I know many numbers of women who would crawl on hot lava rocks and broken glass just to hear from their loved one this kind of open dialogue.
How come you can write and post your innermost feelings on an open forum?
I sure as hell hope you are furnishing copies to the ones who love you. |
Jan, thank you. I can also cry without shame. 
It wasn't always that way. I had a normal upbringing in the 40's and 50's. I held my tears and turned my hurts to anger and fit right in for most of
my life. I was real short of healthy role models. For the last 7 years, since my "weekend", I've been working with an international men's group to
help men transform themselves into the men they always said they wanted to be, and incidentally, that women have been waiting for. I'm a big exponent
of MKP. https://nwta.mkp.org/
Undoubtedly, there are people who cannot afford to give the anchor of sanity even the slightest tug. Sam Harris
"The situation is far too dire for pessimism."
Bill Kauth
Carl Sagan said, "We are a way for the cosmos to know itself."
PEACE, LOVE AND FISH TACOS
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Lee
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I've regretted not treating my ex's better and generally the women in my life.
Regret willingly going to Vietnam twice.
That's about it.
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MrBillM
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A Wilde view of life
Reflected in the quote:
"To have become a deeper man is the privilege of those who have suffered." Oscar Wilde
A Man who felt that the goal in life was a "Pain in the Butt".
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vgabndo
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One of the ways that men have been wounded by our culture is from the hatred of homophobes. One of the things we teach is to be clear, concise, and
direct in our communication and to be authentic. By authenticity we mean that the statement is both factual as we speak it, and "from the heart". The
statement above, reeking with hatred and double meaning might be met with the question: How does it serve you to denigrate other people for things
they cannot change?
Undoubtedly, there are people who cannot afford to give the anchor of sanity even the slightest tug. Sam Harris
"The situation is far too dire for pessimism."
Bill Kauth
Carl Sagan said, "We are a way for the cosmos to know itself."
PEACE, LOVE AND FISH TACOS
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woody with a view
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no regrets.... well, maybe a few but if i would have been an upstanding citizen from day one instead of a surfer i wouldn't have had "that" moment in
time where the shark wouldn't bite and the bee wouldn't sting, sitting alone on a board in the middle of the ocean has been very, very good to me.
i've been a first responder, been locked up more than once, broke a few hearts, had a son, kept 1 best friend all these years, stayed healthy, worked
my nalgas off, lived off the land, paid it forward and took my share...... what's to regret? i think my karma score is still in the plus column!
here's to life and all of its many phases!!!!
PRAY4TUNA!!!
[Edited on 5-24-2014 by woody with a view]
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Skipjack Joe
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| Quote: | Originally posted by vgabndo
One of the ways that men have been wounded by our culture is from the hatred of homophobes. One of the things we teach is to be clear, concise, and
direct in our communication and to be authentic. By authenticity we mean that the statement is both factual as we speak it, and "from the heart". The
statement above, reeking with hatred and double meaning might be met with the question: How does it serve you to denigrate other people for things
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A great smile spreads across his face. You should know by now that one of BillM's greatest pleasures is to get a reaction like yours.
To each his own.
He's the Dennis Rodman of our family. Always looking for ways to shock you. It's his way of saying - Look, I am here.
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MrBillM
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Reeking Hatred ?
A bit overblown on the Hyperbole there ?
Just poking fun at a Queer character.
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bajalearner
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No regrets in this area. One thing I am proud of myself is my tolerance toward other people's pursuit of happiness. There are individuals I haven't
liked but I have a strong sense of respect for others' and their rights and desires.
I poke fun but I hope I don't want to tread on someone's feelings. My first 14 years were growing up in San Francisco CA where I think back is a very
multi cultured and I learned to like individuals and respect their differences.
But more so, I remember my father as a very tolerant man in regards to other people. This memory always comes to mind. I was about 11 and my father
and I encountered an black man living out of a bottle. He lived in the neighborhood when he did go home to his wife and daughter which was rare. Many
times he would arrive in the middle of the night while yelling for his wife to open the door.
My memory is of that man saying hi to my dad on the sidewalk. My dad talked a little and the I saw the man respected my dad. I only saw a drunk
wasted man. A pint bottle of whiskey appeared in the man's hand and said "you wanna drink Mr. P? Well, I knew of course, my dad didn't drink and the
man was not very well groomed and no one would drink from his bottle. But to my surprise, my Dad said yes I will have a drink with you and took a
slug from the bottle. They soon said good bye and we walked on.
What I took away from that was that my dad knew the man's life was wasted but the man was worth acknowledging. I think of that moment many times in
my life and I give my father much respect for his tolerance and respect for a waste of a man. It was about a year later, the man was killed in some
violent incident on the streets.
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