Phil C
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Handshake Greeting
I've noticed that the older folks in BCS have a unique handshake greeting. The hand is extended flat and the palms are touched together. There is no
grabbing and pumping. Its really quite nice and gentle. Anyone else experience this or other types? Not looking for the "secret boys club" marathon
handshake. 
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DENNIS
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It's cultural. The indigenous people here will "shake" your hand if offered, with the most light touch, no more than a brushing of the skin.
They'll only do that when you offer your hand. They won't initiate the ritual. That has become part of the wider cultural norm.
The vigorous hand shake is an import, probably from colonial times when it became important to be assured that the other man's hand was empty.
In our own culture, I have always disliked the bone-crushing handshake. It's just macho BS.
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My experience with indigenous people from Canada to Central America is that their traditional approach to shaking hands is a very gentle "grasp",
often focusing on the fingers more than palm-to-palm touching....the front/tip of the hand doing most of the contact.
The "strong" handshake is not necessarily uncommon, but the gentler approach is certainly used more by women than men....but not restricted to women.
Try it....you'll like it 
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Skipjack Joe
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My impression was that a limp handshake implied a cordial but impersonal greeting. A vigorous handshake implied that they are genuinely glad to see
you. Reserved for close friends and family.
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Quote: Originally posted by Skipjack Joe  | | My impression was that a limp handshake implied a cordial but impersonal greeting. A vigorous handshake implied that they are genuinely glad to see
you. Reserved for close friends and family. |
As said, it's a cultural thing.
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The one that I dislike is the 'endurance shake'. Yeah I'm pleased to meet you too....can I have my hand back now?
It is kind of like fighters in the ring, staring each other down to see who blinks first!
If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space!
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I hate limp handshakes and bone crushing handshakes. If you can't do a firm handshake right, you are a loser from the git go!
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I agree.
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DENNIS
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| Quote: Originally posted by Skipjack Joe | | My impression was that a limp handshake implied a cordial but impersonal greeting. A vigorous handshake implied that they are genuinely glad to see
you. Reserved for close friends and family. |
Yeah...that was the drill before real men started hugging each other.
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Phil C
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Well, I can deal with and accept most of the different kinds, as Motoged said its a cultural thing. I'm very happy, here in BCS to accept a gentle and
heart felt greeting from an abuela, or abuelo.
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Phil C
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Oh and goat, it's not a limp handshake, have you not experienced it?
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let's just stay with a handshake and not have to endure a "hug"...o jeebus.
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That's just great, all those times I hugged you I thought you were digging it.....I'll only hug Roz from now on, she smells better anyway...
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and in La Bocana, the local handshake is a ritual bar none!
handshake - quick hug - another handshake
and if you are at the New Years party, you do that hundreds of times, but you know you are family when they include you!
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| Quote: Originally posted by BajaBlanca | and in La Bocana, the local handshake is a ritual bar none!
handshake - quick hug - another handshake
and if you are at the New Years party, you do that hundreds of times, but you know you are family when they include you! |
That is indeed a "ritual"........the Abrazo, as it is called [ not to be confused with the common hug]. With men, the movements are exactly as you
describe without variation.
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[Edited on 10-12-2016 by DENNIS]
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DENNIS
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Ohhh yeah........ one variation. During the quick hug, both men give three.....just three......pats to the other's back.
OK....now we're done.
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I taught my dog to 'shake', but he still preferred sniffing butts! That would be unacceptable, even if someone was a rich celebrity!
If you are not living on the edge, you are taking up too much space!
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